Alright...here we go...
Ok, so I said I'd come back to this topic of relationships and love and, well, I have a thought on this subject, maybe one or two, but here goes...
People generally refer to love as a feeling and we all know that that isn't true...it's committment and a choice, although the feeling, when present, does have it's perks. Another common theme is that of "falling" in love. (Pardon me while I tangent...I suppose they derived this "falling"ness from that quesy feeling that is present both when you see that certain someone, when you might go skydiving, when you feel ill (that would fit more with "love sick"...hmmm...etc, etc.) But what a concept. That love is falling. Now, if we fell into love, that would make it quite unresponsible for the outcome b/c we tripped right over it, though I suspect that love sets traps for ppl..or maybe it's just those matchmakers(silent shaking of fist)...but on to another thought...
Ok, so other people would say that falling in love is scary. But I ask, are ppl really afraid of falling in love? Ppl do it all the time. They fall in and "out" of love, but my guess is that they're falling in and out of lust, instead. I assume few would argue that. Now, if they really are in love, and their warm-fuzzy feeling is gone, they think that they fell "out" of love, but really they're making the choice to stop loving because they're not choosing to continue loving. Perhaps their love changed. Anyhow, I think that since God wired us to need other ppl, it's not a fear of falling in love, b/c personally, I think that the general population is eager to do so, or rather fall into the... Gap...heehee, sorry, couldn't resist... but more so, ppl are afraid of that point in your life when you realize that indeed, you are in love, it's true, and here you are, with this need, with uncertainty looming before you and wondering if the love is reciprocated. There is something wonderful about that feeling, the anticipation when it goes away, wondering if it will return. Hoping it will b/c there's almost nothing as wonderful. Praying to God at the same time that it won't so you don't have to deal with the fact that it might be there for the long haul. Falling in and out of love is much easier than staying in love. It's much easier than putting yourself out there. Much easier than waiting. Much easier than commitment. Much easier than admitting to the fact that even against all your opposition, you do need someone. Falling in love isn't difficult, it's not scary, it's what comes after the realization that you are in love that is. Nervewracking is the point when you almost have the guts to tell the person how you feel. That you exclaim to the world that you've finally found "the one" (well, you really won't know that til you both say "I do" cause you can still change your mind til then, but after that, don't even think about it). That though they may not feel the same, you're willing to take the risk (watch beginning of "The Village").
The material point: it's not falling in love that's scary. It's the risk that's involved that is. But it's the adventure that comes after that, that makes the risk worth it.
Now all you have to do is make sure it's the right "one"...theme for another post...more to come later...
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